Kindness is something the whole world needs more of. We are talking in the context of marriages but if you are kind in your marriage and kind in everyday life, we can change the world.
What does being kind mean? It means being nice to others but it is so much more than that! Kindness is also being generous to others with your resources and time. Kindness is being considerate of others and taking the time to think about your actions before doing them to ensure they will not hurt others. Being kind to others means you take the time to really see what someone else needs and you help to fill that need if you can.
Proverbs 16:24 says, "Gracious words a a honeycomb, sweet to the soul and healing to the bones." When you choose your words with kindness, they can touch lives and change the course of their lives. This can be so true of your spouse too! Using sweet words with your spouse that are backed with sincere kindness can help to level hard situations. This won't be true in all circumstances (I've had those nights trying to reason with a drunk and sometimes staying level headed and just going to the other room is the best rather than trying to make it better), but you can use kind words the next day when expressing your hurt. When possible always try to speak with kindness. It is much harder for someone to fight with someone being kind to them than it is with someone who is combative.
The other part of kindness is being considerate of others. Be mindful of how your words and actions could affect the other person. Philippians 2:3-4 says, "Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit. Rather, in humility value others above yourselves, not looking to your own interests but each of you to the interests of the others." Make your kindness sincere. Be kind to your spouse with the intention of kindness and consideration for them.
- J
In the comments tell us how you plan to show kindness to your spouse?
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