Love is... Not Easily Angered and Keeps No Record of Wrong / A Study of love 1 Corinthians 13:4-8

It's no secret that anger can fuel a normal situation or conversation into a bad one. Then throw in bringing up past wrongs and you can take down a whole relationship with just some words. I am putting these two together because they generally go hand in hand.

This one is hard for me because I am generally on the receiving end of this. My prayers lately really should be for his peace so he is not so easily angered by everything. When his anger veers towards me its all about bringing up the past too which just tears me down because I have said my sorries for things I have done and things that he brings up are from when we first got together which was when I was just 19, a stupid teenager. I think he would realize that after all these years and the fact that I am now in my thirties and more mature would help him let go of those things but no...

I am not perfect by any means... anger rears its ugly head through me as well so what can we do to limit it? Self-control and self-awareness will be key here!

One of the best books I can recommend for growing your self-control and self-awareness in your mind is Battlefield of the Mind by Joyce Meyer you can find it here https://amzn.to/3KhcZdu This is a great book for handling emotions and feelings such as depression, anger, worry and more.

It will also help to utilize techniques for calming the mind too. Here are some tricks I've found in my research

1. Practice deep breathing to calm yourself in a stressful situation

2. Count to 10 (In your head if you're in front of the person your anger is geared towards!)

3. Take time in your thoughts before speaking. The best way to keep a situation at a healthy level is by choosing your words carefully.

4. Take a timeout. Some situations need breathers. If you feel things are getting too heated take a break so both of you can take the proper cool down time in order to look at the situation with clear heads

5. Focus on the matter at hand. DO NOT bring other past wrongs into the conversation

6. TOUCH ... GOOD TOUCH. Give that man a big smooch or a loving hug. When i am having my hardest moments a loving touch can bring my level way down.

7. Physical exercise. Exercise, workout, take a walk anything to exert the bad energy. Its hard to fight when your tired.

8. Gratitude. Take a few minutes to tell each other what your grateful for regarding your spouse.

9. Forgiveness. Forgive before theres even something to forgive.

-Jessica