Marriage isn't always 50/50, sometimes its 70/30 or even 0/100. When it feels like your the one pulling the workload of marriage, emotions like anger, resentment, and loneliness can creep in. My way of combating these emotions and feelings is finding ways to boost our marriage. Tonight, for instance, I gave my hubby a little butt squeeze and a giggle. Being with a husband that isn't affectionate can be frustrating and infuriating but instead of getting angry or upset about it, I try to make being affectionate fun for him. One of the benefits of being a woman is that no man can resist a playful giggle and a touch on the toosh!
One of my favorite books called "The Power of a Praying Wife" has some great advice that can help us understand that reacting with bad emotions can not only make the individual situation worse but also can lead into more problems. Next time your husband does something or says something that usually irritates you and pulls a reaction out of you, pray. Hold your tongue, react calmly and pray! James 1:19 says, "My dear brothers and sisters, take note of this: Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry." Keep this verse as a reminder that you can see always like a nice canvas on the wall or even sticky notes randomly around the house. My favorite way to display verses I am trying to remember is on a white board that hangs on my refrigerator.
- J
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