Will there ever be a peaceful day we can enjoy all the good stuff we have in this life? It's hard to hold out hope when dealing with someone who self-sabotages. Just when life is going good they intensely try to muck things up. I'm not sure if the is intentional or subconscious but it happens all too often.
Today we had a pretty good day. It was hot and we had an emergency call but we got it done quickly and even got a nice dinner out of it. When we got home one of our heat pump heads was acting up so what else do you do but troubleshoot. One of his suggestions was that the drain pipe was clogged with water... my reply was I don't think that's it because I had thought the drain pipes were cut so they hung in mid air. While he totally could've said something like oh those ones weren't or hmm let's go check, he didn't say those things. He blew up in an attitude saying I never believe him and started storming around like he had a stick up his ass. Me and the older children went out to investigate the outside and yes the pipes were touching the ground and had a little water but I'm totally one who can admit when she's wrong. That however wasn't the problem that was throwing an error code instead it is a communications error code. So... attitude is still flared up and he shouts to me the error code on the machine that mind you I had already looked up. I responded to this shouting not in the best manner and said if you're going to be like that look it up yourself which of course led to okay then you fix it yourself 🙄. So I went on my phone did a little reset with the Wi-Fi on the head and it started working again somewhat (it's still having issues I believe because he's upstairs tinkering). I am now in bed because it's not worth it at 1am to be fixing one head when the other 3 are fine and the kiddos can sleep downstairs tonight.
Whew... venting out. Now to add onto this during the day he was saying how we should have sex tonight and he can't wait to have sex but then throws a childish attitude right at bed time. Definitely not in the mood now. I wish he didn't do this because I could totally use that intimate time with him.
Do you have a man that self-sabotages when things are going good? What are your tips to keeping the spirits up in these moments?
-J
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