Whew... Its been a few days since my last post but it has been non-stop between work and kids and vacation bible adventure at church. In that mess of busy I started writing down some thoughts, therefore we are pushing the next Love is post for another day and focusing on speaking up and giving yourself what you need.
The first part of this is speaking up! We have to be cautious of not being the "nagging wife" but you also need to ensure you're not taking the extreme and never letting your needs be heard. Your wants and needs are important too in marriage and surprise men are NOT psychic. Lately I have been feeling that distant loneliness in my marriage that I feel all too often so it is time to bring it up. My husband is not an affectionate person which is the polar opposite from what I crave and NEED. Today he started noticing my silence, which is something I need to work on but when I am feeling unloved I just close up. I don't want to be talked to or touched because its not the kind that my soul is longing for. To say the least, our rides to our 3 different jobs today were icy cold and it was noticed. I kept staying silent until we parted ways so he could go home and I could go to the church to help with our vacation bible adventure. While there I decided that it was time to speak up because he can't know my issues if I'm not saying anything. So I texted him and this is how it went...
As you can tell it wasn't the most vibrant conversation but I got it out there and now we wait... Not too long because as I am writing this I am at home. No kiss when I came in the door but we shall see if intimacy plays out tonight. Not holding my breath but I will say he was nice when I got home.
Now the next topic which kind of follows closely to this is that you can start giving yourself the love you need when your other party is not as present as they should be. I fell for a long time into the deep hole of feeling hopeless because I wasn't getting what I needed from my husband but I am starting to turn a new leaf. After years of wearing leggings and stopping make up all together I am finally wearing jeans and wearing make up again! I can't tell you how much confidence you gain when you a feeling good about yourself. I also bought myself 4 new books! I am already on chapter 5 on one of the books and I am already starting to feel alive again.
Your challenges this week are to start speaking up about your needs and to do something for yourself to bring up your confidence!
Some ways you could bring your confidence up are:
Read your Bible. You are God's princess and you should know it so dig into His word!
Dress up. Put those sexy jeans on or a cute dress that you love and feel comfortable in.
Put on some make up. Even if its just foundation and some lip balm.
Take yourself on a date. Go out to a coffee shop, grab a cappuccino, and sit to read by yourself.
Talk to yourself nicely. Look in the mirror and tell yourself some things you like about You.
-J
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